Love is Our Marker

“Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples” (John 13:35).

When Jesus said this to his disciples, he was launching a revolution. He didn’t say that education, power, or even theological persuasion would identify his disciples. Nor did he say that training in cross cultural communications or evangelism would prove discipleship. Even though all of these things are important, Jesus said love was the marker of a disciple that would prove to the world that we are, in fact, believers. Interestingly, Bible schools, seminaries, church conferences, and churches have vibrant discussions about many important subjects, but often love is an addendum if mentioned at all. Most evangelicals embrace the need to reach others for the cause of Christ, but this exhortation from Jesus is not central to most discussions on evangelism.

Why? I believe it’s because love is confusing. It’s easier to be committed to a religious ideology, political position, or even a social norm than it is to be loving. Love isn’t a test when the others around us respect us, look like us, act like us, or are socially appropriate around us. Neither is love difficult when it is something we market and sell to reach “those people” or the “little people.”

Christ’s love in us is authenticated when we’ve been insulted, slapped, offended, disappointed, or challenged by someone outside our normal circle of those we like. I think this is why Jesus exhorted us to turn the other cheek, go the second mile, and to care for the “least of these.” Christian love is something that differentiates us from everyone else because we refuse to hate, label, judge, demonize, and dehumanize. Insisting on respecting others who are very different than we are is a core revelation of Jesus’ exhortation to all of us. We claim that we are the ones set apart because we have Christ in us, which means we’ll leave the 99 to rescue the 1, spend our free time with the socially unacceptable and those who could never benefit us. To identify, as Jesus did, and lose our reputations to become despised and rejected by those who are well respected for the sake of another is Christlike.

We are not believers because we were God’s project. Instead, out of love for us we became the subjects of his heart. He identified with the worst parts of us. To be like him, we might consider doing the same. We break out of the pack when we love – when we demonstrate that we are not part of the world’s system by choosing to love – not as a technique, but because we do, in fact, want to invest our lives in the well being of others regardless of who they are.

My wife and I went through a horrific tragedy in 2006. Prior to that tragedy, I was perceived as a benefit to the body of Christ, was socially acceptable, and, as a result, was deeply loved by many . . . or so I thought. After my failure, Gayle and I noted that theology made no statistical difference in the way people were responding to us. Certainly some were motivated by their commitment to Christ, but not in disproportionate numbers compared to those who did not claim any belief in Christ who also demonstrated hope and kindness toward us. There was the same amount of kindness and support from non-believers as believers. And there was the same level of hatred, judgment, suspicion, misinformation and condemnation from believers as non-believers. Based on the percentages, theology, or claiming to be a born-again Christian, didn’t seem to be a determining factor in the way people responded to us.

Thus, I’ve committed to being loving toward those in the most difficult moments of their lives. When people are nice, it’s easy. When people are struggling, that’s when I can differentiate from the crowd, go the second mile, and sacrifice something valuable to me to make their lives better. I think I’m experiencing a love reformation.

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5 thoughts on “Love is Our Marker

  1. Roy Wahlgren says:

    Having heard of your “tragedy,” I had wondered what was going on and it seemed to me to be another example of Christians “shooting their own wounded.” I read Gayle’s book and it enabled me to understand what you as a couple were going through. None of us are perfect. We may serve Him in some capacity, but we all fail at times. We are all sinners, saved by grace. It seems that some believers judge certain sins more harshly than others and then point and say, “Well, I’m better than that because I do not _______” It is easy to find someone more “sinful” than yourself and use that to justify whatever it is that is your “favorite” sin. Hebrews 11 ….. We need to look at the Holiness of our Lord and “press toward that mark” rather than becoming as a Pharisee. Luke 12:1

  2. George Wiland says:

    Forgiveness — both, by the Lord, and of one’s self. and of others who have hurt us. It is the great release from the guilt and bondage of one’s own past-!

  3. Leona Benton says:

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  4. Jeff Rice says:

    GOD SAVED you Ted – You never shocked GOD – HE already knew everything you would ever do. HE delivered you Ted from Egypt –

    When GOD led the People Into the Wilderness – HE Delivered them from Egypt – In the Wilderness HE delivers Egypt from within us.- Now you can see –

    Act 26:12 Whereupon as I went to Damascus with authority and commission from the chief priests,
    Act 26:13 At midday, O king, I saw in the way a light from heaven, above the brightness of the sun, shining round about me and them which journeyed with me.
    Act 26:14 And when we were all fallen to the earth, I heard a voice speaking unto me, and saying in the Hebrew tongue, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me? it is hard for thee to kick against the pricks.
    Act 26:15 And I said, Who art thou, Lord? And he said, I am Jesus whom thou persecutest.
    Act 26:16 But rise, and stand upon thy feet: for I have appeared unto thee for this purpose, to make thee a minister and a witness both of these things which thou hast seen, and of those things in the which I will appear unto thee;
    Act 26:17 Delivering thee from the people, and from the Gentiles, unto whom now I send thee,
    Act 26:18 To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me.

  5. Jeff Rice says:

    You now can see the evil Operating in Churches and in the World – LIGHT vs Darkness – I was confused to see GOD and Satan Operating in Churches – I asked GOD why i see HIM and Evil Operating and HE led me to Ezekiel chapter 8:

    Our battle is not people –

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