The Planned Parenthood Shooter

Yesterday Robert Dear from North Carolina killed police officer Garrett Swasey, a former athlete turned police officer, near the Planned Parenthood Clinic in Colorado Springs. Though the two were within yards of one another, they saw the world very, very differently. At the same moment, only two miles away in the comfort of my office, I was also experiencing a different world.

Today I expect to start hearing projections as to why this gunner targeted Planned Parenthood, and why he chose to shoot and ultimately kill and injure people in our community.

As my wife and I were falling asleep last night, we spoke at length about the way people see situations so differently. I see this contrast in perceptions regularly, even among the people of our church. Different people see situations and others differently based on their own values, experiences, and educations that filter their perceptions.

In addition, we all have, to varying degrees, cognitive distortions, which are thought patterns that cause irrational or exaggerated conclusions. Whoever this shooter was, I’m sure we’ll learn more about his cognitive distortions that caused him to justify, in his own mind, the tragedy he created yesterday. And with each one, we’ll shake our heads wondering how he could possibly think that way.

I teach a class on Sunday nights on Renewing Your Mind: How To Change Your Brain. A portion of that class deals with our seeing things realistically and then responding responsibly. Therapists that emphasize how behaviors are influenced by our thinking (Cognitive Behavioral and Reality Therapists) often use a list of cognitive distortions to help clients identify their own cognitive distortions so they can respond to life more rationally.

Two week ago I wrote a blog entitled “What? That’s Not What Happened!” listing a few of these cognitive distortions.

As Gayle and I were talking last night, we reviewed how our awareness of cognitive distortions can help all of us think through events and choose our responses with greater wisdom. In the context of yesterday’s craziness on the first day of this Christmas season, I thought a more thorough review might be helpful for all of us (This is my adaptation of the checklist by David Burns from Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy)

  1. Polarized thinking: When we look at things in absolute — all or nothing categories, we are typically thinking too simplistically. Things are seldom exclusively good or bad, black or white, right or wrong. Instead, there are exceptions, explanations, and nuances that cause most people and situations to fall into a gray area between the extremes.
  2. Overgeneralization: When we overgeneralize, we use words like always, never, everyone, best, and worst. Generalizations are seldom, if ever, true. There is typically at least one exception. 
  3. Discounting the positives: When we  discount the positive accomplishments or qualities of ourselves or others, and focus only on the negative, we or they feel insignificant and powerless.
  4. Jumping to conclusions: (A) Mind reading – we assume that we know what other people are feeling or thinking. When we do this, we think we know the motivations of others. Since we rarely understand our own motivations, to presume to know the motivations of another is a significant projection that is seldom accurate; (B) Fortune Telling – we arbitrarily predict the outcome of events or future development in the lives of others.
  5. Magnification or Minimization: We blow things way out of proportion or we shrink their significance, which distorts their value.
  6. Emotional Reasoning: We draw conclusions based on how we feel, assuming our feelings reflect some reality.
  7. Should Statements: We judge others using words like should, shouldn’t, must, and ought. “Have to” is a similar offender. These are sometimes necessary for personal application, and we may sparingly and cautiously use them in reference to those within our chain-of-command, but they can reveal a major distortion of personal significance when used randomly toward others.
  8. Labeling: We draw comfort by simplistically seeing people and situations in categories, boxes, silos, classifications, or stereotypes. This leads to sexism, racism, bigotry, and other generalizations that do not take into account the uniqueness of individuals or specific situations.
  9. Personalization: We assume that what people are doing or saying is about or because of us, when in fact it might not have anything to do with us.
  10. Blame: Our greatest potential for choice is between some event and our response to it. We choose our responses. They are not forced upon us, which is why we are responsible for how we choose to respond. So when we blame, we are giving more power over our lives to others, and denying our own abilities.

It’s too early to know why the Planned Parenthood shooter did what he did. But now we have an opportunity to comfort those who have been hurt by his actions, pray for healing in the lives of those involved, and do everything we can to learn from this horrific tragedy how to respond to actions and views we disagree with in constructive, godly ways.

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9 thoughts on “The Planned Parenthood Shooter

  1. Butch Maltby says:

    Thanks Ted. This is solid friend.

  2. butchmaltby1 says:

    This is solid Ted. Thank you.

  3. Jose Rivera says:

    Thank you pastor Haggard, blessings to you and yours

  4. J and D Espinoza says:

    Thank You and the Good Lord for this for this opportunity.

  5. Ron Webb says:

    The man is a terrorist. He targeted Planned Parenthood because he wanted ALL Planned Parenthood Clinics to have fear. This is the way terrorism works. And it is also the way Satan works in the World. He is the master-terrorist, As such, he doesn’t have to attack every Christian. But the tragic examples we see of his work in the World and in the Church cause us all to shudder a little and experience fear that is not related to our own personal experience. God has not given us a spirit of fear. That really narrows down the sources of fear in our lives.

  6. Marge Johnson says:

    Thank you, Ted Haggard! This is really good! Blessings to you and your family.
    My prayers go out to the families that lost their loved ones, also prayers to heal the wounded and the so many people involved in this bad situation. May God be near and heal the hurt!

  7. Ben McFall says:

    Its very interesting when we take these points an examine ourselfs and our own view of a tragic situation like this. Trying to understand our own actions, let alone the actions of another at a level like this is mind boggling to say the least. Some very good point that will take more the one read to ponder. Thanks for the thought provoking morning time Pastor Ted.

  8. Steve Granger says:

    Thank you for taking the time to prepare and share this article, Ted. Perspective is tricky. It was refreshing that you wrote this without a disparaging word about any group or individual, including the shooter. It’s too early to express my perspective. I’m not sure that is what people really need. We’re flooded with opinions. I appreciate you providing good information for my mind, heart, and soul, and look forward to other articles. I wish you and your family a wonderfully blessed holiday season.

  9. old friend says:

    I see u still have it God is a good God

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